I remember being ridiculed as a little girl because I wore dresses to school too much. So? I stopped wearing dresses to school. Even though I loved dresses.
I just turned 30 last week, and it has me reflecting like crazy.
The most recurring thought I had in my 20s was definitely, “What will ____ think of me?”
I have decided to adopt a new recurring thought. “What will God think of me?”
“What will I think of myself?”
It’s not easy.
It’s definitely taking mental energy and awareness.
It’s requiring time and effort to change the thought pattern that’s ruled my life so far.
But I know it will be worth it.
It’s time for me to start wearing dresses again. Unapologetically.
When it comes to motherhood, what kind of mother do you want to be?
Not what kind of mother do you want others to think you are.
What kind of mother do YOU want to be?
What kind of mother does GOD want you to be?
And while reflecting on these thoughts, it is important that we remember something crucial: There was a popular post trending a while back that said something like, “God created trendy moms, God created crafty moms…” etc. and the main message behind it was, God created you to be a certain type of mom, so embrace who you are, and stop comparing yourself to other moms.
In the words of my friend Hannah Olson, “I appreciate the sentiment. The part that I had a hard time with was that it was directly tied to motherhood. God did not create me as a mom, He created me as a soul. He gave my soul these talents and abilities that I can use in motherhood, absolutely He meant for me to use these things in motherhood, I don’t think He meant for me to limit these things to motherhood only. If I am crafty, I can use that in motherhood, in my relationship with my friends, my spouse, and my business. God did not create me as a mom. God created me as a soul.”
Who are YOU?
Who are you as a SOUL?
Who are you at your CORE?
Are you living true to yourself?
Or have you changed because you’re afraid of what other people think?
“We were sent here to change the world. Not to let the world change us.”
I read in my scriptures this week, “With some, I am not well pleased, for they will not open their mouths, but they hide the talent which I have given unto them, because of the fear of man.… if they are not more faithful unto me, it shall be taken away, even that which they have” (D&C 60:2-3).
And then? Try putting this thought on for once: “I love myself unconditionally right now.”
A woman who loves herself is easy to love.
A woman who is authentic to herself is confident.
Our worth is eternal. It’s time that we claim it.
Let’s step into who WE are. At our core.
“God made me. And He does not make mistakes.”
“The more I recognize I’m already enough, the less perfect I have to be.”
Does that mean we don’t have room for growth and improvement? Of course not. We make mistakes. And we can improve.
Just because we have room for improvement does mean that we are not currently enough. Exactly as we are. I am worthy of love and belonging exactly as I am. And so are you.
Let’s be true to ourselves.
At our core.
Let’s give ourselves a little more grace!
Let’s show ourselves a little more love.
Let’s change the world.
Because we are OURSELVES.