Hello, homeschoolers! Today I want to talk about some important decisions. Decisions that will hopefully save your sanity. Decisions that we make regularly, but not always beforehand or purposefully, which can lead to stress in our lives.
I want you right now to make a list of the 3 most important things in your life. Mine are my relationship with God, my relationship with my husband, and my relationship with my children. But yours do NOT have to be the same as mine. Decide what your short list is first. Then, based off that shorter list, decide what extras are most important.
Is it more important that the kids get school work done or clean their room today? Are you a person that gets stressed out in an untidy environment? If so, it might be best to have them take a break and clean a few things so your mental health is good. Does your relationship with God need some extra time sometimes so you can be a better mother and teacher? If so, maybe you need some more one on one time with Him rather than having your kids do the last 30 minutes of school work. Do you see where I’m going with this?
My husband was complimenting me last night on my ability to sometimes let things drop in order to focus on more important things. Like leaving the house untidy in order to spend time with the kids sometimes. Now, I can’t handle messes, and eventually, they get cleaned, but it’s not my main focus all the time. But that’s what works for me and for us in our home.
You need to know what’s most important to YOU so you can see clearly what things you sometimes need to let go of. And then be ok living in that decision.
If you let things get untidy and someone stops by unexpectedly, oh well! Your home is lived in and you made the decision already that it’s ok, so you don’t have to beat yourself up about it or apologize for the mess. If you can’t get to your workout because you spent extra time playing with your kids and that’s more important to you, don’t beat yourself up about how your body looks, just love yourself and your decision. If exercise is extremely important to you, then don’t feel guilty making time for that each day.
You can’t be perfect at all things, and you can’t do everything, so decide now what’s most important to you! And then be ok with whatever you decided to let go. You are amazing, you deserve to be well, and you are the only one who can set boundaries for yourself so that the most important things take priority every day.
What things come first in your life? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Share in the comments below!