Forcing a feeling of gratitude is one of those things that sounds good in theory, but doesn’t have much substance to it. It’s much like when we force our kiddos to say they’re sorry when they’re nothing of the sort.
The more you spend time finding all the bad bits of everything, or just plain hating stuff, the more you allow your brain to marinate in negativity – and the more you are training it to be miserable and unhappy all the time – and that’s bad news for everyone, especially yourself.
Spur of the moment, my son asked if we could go camping! We have a 4-year-old, a 2-year-old, and a 1-year-old, and we thought to ourselves… why not?? Would it be an adventure or an ordeal? It all depends on me.
Gratitude is not an attitude, it’s a skill. As a skill, it can be practiced just like you’d practice anything else…the more you practice, the better and more natural the act of being grateful will become.