Every day there will be times when you have to choose to ignore a problem or to stand your ground. You might feel like you are being pushed around by your kids or by a well-meaning neighbor. Perhaps there’s a situation that’s making you uncomfortable. Maybe there’s a person who’s being a jerk to you.
Some problems deserve ignoring. There isn’t enough energy in the day to fight every battle. But, then there are those problems where you need to take action. If someone is treating you badly, you do not have to put up with it. If you or someone else is in danger, you need to get help. Stand up for yourself. Stand up for others. If it’s a serious problem – be brave enough to reach out for help and advice.
Next time you encounter a challenge or a battle of wills, ask yourself what do you get if you win? What happens if you lose or ignore it? If winning gets you something better than what you have, then it’s worth fighting for.
Is someone being really aggressive to get your parking spot? Fine. If you fight to win, you might get that spot, and also have someone who might come back and key your car or follow you into the store. That’s not worth it, park somewhere else.
Is there a really rude receptionist at your doctor’s office that makes it hard to get an appointment? A pleasant but professional letter to the office informing them of the situation might be all it takes to create change for you and anyone else who calls. Win.
The Playground Story:
Kids are unpredictable at the best of times, and mine, well, mine tend to take normal and run to the outermost corners of what’s considered acceptable. One day I’d taken them to a fast-food restaurant with a play structure inside needing them to be entertained for a few minutes while I enjoyed a slow lunch. All that running around and climbing totally counts as exercise, so it’s a super win.
Except on that day, I encountered a Karen. This was around the time when Fortnite had just come out and it was all the rage in our house. So, my kids were playing a real-life version of Fortnite and having a great time. Part of that game just happened to include shouting all sorts of things that when taken out of context seem questionable. Such as the phrase, “I’m going to kill you!”
Yeah. Karen had some choice words for me about how she didn’t appreciate my kids saying that to her kids all while being super condescending about what she thought about me as a mom. At that time I was super insecure about literally everything and was uber exhausted to boot. All I could do was sit there with my mouth open. To this day I wish I would have stood up to her instead of just taking the litany of abuses that came out of her mouth. It probably wouldn’t have fixed anything, but I would have felt a whole lot better about the situation.