By Becky Kemp

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How are you showing up to your life?  Are you living the life you have always wanted to create for yourself?  Why not?  It is time to ask these empowering questions and discover that our own unique story is powerful and amazing just the way it is today! 

When we think of our story, it often has a negative thought attached because our focus tends to be on what isn’t happening instead of what is.  We can’t always control our first thought but we have the power to decide what thoughts we continue to put on over and over again. 

Thoughts including the words should or shouldn’t never serve us.  Like I should have done this or I shouldn’t have done that.  They are thoughts that make us feel less than, discouraged, or disappointed and never drive actions to create the results we want. 

We want to ask empowering questions that allow our brain to focus on the good.  As we ask these questions we will discover how to put on thoughts that help us feel unconditional love and acceptance for the story we have created.  There is power to change our story but first we must accept where we are!  Brene Brown has said,

“Vulnerability is hard, and it’s scary, and it feels dangerous, but it is not as hard, scary, or dangerous as getting to the end of our lives and having to ask ourselves, ‘what if I would have shown up?’ 

Brene Brown

Are you showing up for your life?  We often think, “I will show up when this or that is happening” and we continue to wait for our circumstances to change. It is our thoughts that cause our suffering, not our circumstances! This is good news because we can change our thoughts! That power is within each of us.

We don’t have to just fit in with the crowd.  To belong actually means to be you and embrace who you are and allow others to do the same.  As you decide how you want to belong—you will discover who you were meant to be and that only you can be you.  Brene Brown talks more about this in a video called “The Call to Courage.”  She says,

“The opposite of belonging, from the research, is fitting in.  That’s the opposite of belonging.  Fitting in is assessing and acclimating.  ‘Here’s what I should say, or be.  Here’s what I shouldn’t say.  Here’s what I should avoid talking about. Here’s what I should dress like, look like.’  That’s fitting in.  Belonging…is belonging to yourself first.  Speaking your truth, telling your story, and never betraying yourself for other people.  True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are.  It requires you to be who you are and then be vulnerable.”  

Brene Brown

Wow! These words are powerful. Fitting in has thoughts with should…belonging does not.   Check out my latest episode on The Word Effect Podcast, episode 13, “How to Belong and Just BE You” for more ideas on this topic.   Are you ready to experience the creative process of The Word Effect? I invite you to continue to show up and see how powerful words are in your story too. Words matter.  You can create the life you want with the power of words.  


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