By Brynne Wise

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In the New Testament, Christ raises Jairus’ daughter from the dead, and then? He commanded those present to give her something to eat.

If God can raise someone from the dead, do you think He also could have made sure her belly was full before she arose?

Of course He could have.
But He didn’t. Why?

Because He doesn’t do for us what we can do for ourselves.

When I was a preschool teacher at the Brigham Young University Preschool, I was amazed at the 4-year-olds I helped teach. Some could read. Some would hold the pet tarantula, Webby. And every single one would pour their own water at snack time.



Because someone told them they could.
Someone showed them how until they felt empowered to do it on their own.

Can we ask older siblings to help us throw away the baby’s diaper? Can we teach our 3-year-olds to open their own fruit snacks? Can we give our one-year-olds a paper towel to help wipe up spills on their high chair? Can we give our 4-year-olds chores? Can we push things toward our kiddos that are just out of their reach without full-blown handing it to them? Can we teach our 8-year-olds how to cook? Can we empower our teenagers to take the lead in family events? Can we do for them what they cannot do for themselves, and then empower them to do the rest? Yes. Yes, we can. Just like Christ did.

What beautiful and confident and able humans we will raise as we empower them to do what they can, independently.

What beautiful and confident and able humans we will raise as we give them the grace to make mistakes, and the grace to learn from those mistakes. As we show them through our words and actions that we trust them, we believe in them, and that we love them enough to let them try, and potentially fail. We love them enough to allow them to grow. We love them enough to allow them to fly.



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