Category: Real Talk w/Holly Richardson
You can challenge all sorts of things – you can challenge inequities, challenge bias, challenge assumptions, challenge stereotypes, challenge the status quo, challenge the gender pay gap, and challenge sexism, both hostile and benevolent. You can even challenge yourself.
Being knee-deep in poopy diapers was not exactly my dream job…but I can look back on my 34 years of being a parent and see how selfishness has been squeezed out of me, how patience has increased many times over from those early days, how my abilities to deal with melt-downs and all manner of come-aparts have grown, and how I found God in the trenches.
This year, I’ve found myself more anxious and more out of sorts than I normally am. I’ve needed to address the mom stress directly, especially going into the holiday season. I meditate. I breathe. I journal. I manage expectations – my own and others’. And I use music.
Some trials I never have and never will be grateful for. However, I have learned I can still find ways to be grateful in the middle of despair and later, I am often grateful for lessons learned, for empathy deepened and a heart softened. Gratitude and sorrow can co-exist.
When I was a young mom with a houseful of young children, my mom gave me a plaque. It read “When mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Well, this mama was NOT happy. I was offended. You see, I did not want everyone’s happiness riding on my shoulders. That felt too heavy.