By Jodi Milner

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FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out. It’s so real it hurts sometimes. There are amazing people doing amazing things literally all the time – and you aren’t one of them. Thanks to apps like YouTube, TikTok, and Facebook, we are constantly bombarded with people demonstrating just how good they are at something, or the fantastic places they’re visiting, or the achievements of their children. After a while, it’s hard not to feel like you’re missing out on doing all the things that your friends seem to be doing so effortlessly.


The truth is, it’s all a lie. The next time you start feeling annoyed that everyone except you is doing something fun, remember this – first of all, they’re not. Most people are sitting on their butts wishing they were doing something but never acting on it. What you are seeing is a carefully curated series of posts that highlight only the best of the best. While yes, there are several “true to life” type posts, like someone locking themselves out of their house, those posts are usually few and far between.

The Real Problem

The real problem is never that someone is doing something you want to do, it’s that deep down, you don’t feel like you are enough. When you see someone succeed, it only emphasizes something that you feel you’ve failed at. 

The next time you catch yourself in a FOMO moment and feel that pang of regret or unfairness, stop and lovingly tell yourself that you are in control of your own future. Take a moment and think if that’s a thing you actually do want to do, or if it’s just something you feel you should be doing because someone else is doing it. 

If it is something you’ve truly wanted to do, then take a moment and decide if it’s worth spending time on and if you in fact have that kind of time. Maybe you need to stop doing other things that aren’t as rewarding to try something new. An amazing experience might not be as far away as you think!

When you’re in a bad place, everything triggers FOMO

Back in the day when I had young kids and the idea of traveling anywhere fun would make me break out in hives, every time I’d see a friend going on an amazing vacation and leaving their young kids with a favorite aunt I’d get really angry. They had something I didn’t and couldn’t have and it felt horribly unfair. I discovered that the times this FOMO was the worst, the times I would get really bitter, were the times I wasn’t taking care of myself. As soon as I started working harder at making sure I was taking better care of myself, the FOMO faded.


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